We have all been affected by this tragedy on different levels. Some of us have lost friends and/or loved ones, and many of us, I suspect, are still hoping for the best while fearing the worst. Unfortunately, there are no rules to go by in terms of determining what is an appropriate response to this grief, and what goes too far. It will take time, but eventually, we all will need to move on: we need to start rebuilding at some point, and resuming our normal state of affairs. And, while the general mood is still somber in many places, at some point, we will all need to start bringing joy, humor, and beauty back into our lives. If we insist on wallowing in our misery, then we are handing victory to the people who committed this outrage. Obviously, certain aspects of what may be the first truly national mourning period in US history are not under our control: whether sporting games are cancelled, what TV shows will air, and so on. But, to the extent that we do have choices, criticizing others for how they choose to cope with this tragedy is at best inappropriate: some people complained that many teenagers were making macabre or off-color jokes about this tragedy. To be honest, I've seen it myself on the wards; "gallows humor" is a defense mechanism. So, if you still need to grieve, do so; if you are ready to move on, do so. But don't yell at people who disagree with you. --STI
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